7.13.2006

Consider Yourselves Warned




This ain't a Grandma's Brag Book or a Family Reunion Page.

My goal is to present a life, which happens to be my own--in all of its complex beauty and ugliness. The adventures, the mistakes, the lessons, and the triumphs. I don't whitewash, and I don't censor much. I am as flawed and as fallible as the next guy, and I don't pretend otherwise.

You're welcome to stay for as long as you're interested or entertained.

You are also welcome to leave.

19 comments:

aud said...

I love that you are so real and don't hide any flaws. You're an inspiration to us all.

Anne-Davnes said...

Yeah - and that's how these blogs should work.

That's what's so unique about this medium. It's a different, often more frank way of discussing/sharing pain. Drama/pain is what makes us open our mouths and try to figure stuff out. Talk to each other. Jab and joke and laugh at ourselves.

When everything's easy and rosy and you're coasting, what's there to talk about? Question? Nuthin! Cause everything's dandy! And there's no work to be done.

I didn't begin to enjoy writing posts until I got real honest with them. I figure why waste my time fluffing things up when there are real questions to ask. I look up to people in interviews who get honest. Ever watch Inside The Actor's Studio? That show's interesting because folks are honest. Students as honest questions, too. It's a learning and entertaining experience every time I tune in.

Blogs that interest me do the same thing. Every poem you write, every piece in your book should do the same thing. Get real.

I have a thing against anon comments/commentors. I also have a thing for unsolicited advice and people who really just want to "fix" me. The real gift lies in just listening and letting the other person know you heard and understood them. If you don't, then ask again and get it right.

But don't give advice unless someone's asked for it. And for fuckssake, if someone DOES ask for it - be a little more creative than "Um, I think you should see a therapist."

I'm gonna go carve some of that shit in some driftwood.

minus five said...

anne: that was too original for driftwood. for the driftwood medium, you need to get your material from a quote book, after-school specials or ceramic magnets from hallmark.

t: i'll fight someone if you need me to.

Biggy said...

Those familiar with your poetry know you pull no punches. Your blog is really no different.

A said...

T- some people just need to take it easy for a few minutes. And some people are idiots. That's how I feel about that. And I can also help Minus fight if you need me to. I do a mean testicle kick.

Tania Rochelle said...

Hey-hey! I appreciate your energy, but no need to fight.

Give my ex-sister-in-law a break. I'm sure she's just embarrassed.

I gots no beef with Joye.

minus five said...

liar.

MCALDWELLC said...

Here is the real beauty of the blog...we can choose to read them, post to them or ignore them. No one is forcing anyone to do something, read something or feel something they do not want to do, read or feel. Blogs are about expression and sharing...look at the success of the PostSecret blog...that is all about sharing joy and pain...and it helps others. By sharing your truth and by being candid about your life you, Tania, help others as well...and that is a beautiful thing.

I don't want to read fairy tales anyway because that does not intrigue me...I want to know about real people and their real lives and their real struggles. That is where the depth, texture and true beauty of life and humanity is seen...not in some glossed over sugar coated bullshit that is designed to make everyone feel good.

People fuck up. Some people are simply fucked up. It is just the way of the world. And life gets a lot easier when we can accept this, forgive others and move on... Maybe your sister in law (aka anonymous blogger) is just in denial about this. That happens a lot...especially in families that have several layers of dysfunction.

Anonymous said...

no i'm not embarrassed. didnt mean to get you all worked up over this. i am sure you all will be pleased that this is my first and last post now that i have expressed my thoughts. time for me to go back to being a mom. take care and dont get so worked up over nothing, it causes wrinkles

oh this is Joye

Tania Rochelle said...

Whew!

Collin said...

After resisting the whole blog thing, Tania's has turned out to be one of the best -- warts and all. This blog is better than "Running With Scissors." It's a must read everyday.

Tania Rochelle said...

Hey, thanks Collin!

The Running With Scissors thing is the greatest compliment ever.

Anonymous said...

Leaves blog and considers methods of blocking it from the eyes of young children. They need a V-Chip for blogs, or at least a way to alert the right wing that some shit is going down, and its not very nice thank you very much.

minus five said...

first of all, collin, how much did tania pay you to say that about "running with scissors?" i basically taught her everything she knows anyway.

and second of all, what 3rd grade level, ex-relative of yours penned that last anonymous comment?

Anonymous said...

wow, this site is flooded with miserable, unhappy people. do you people have a life or do you sit around and do this all day

Tania Rochelle said...

I love it when the smuggies arrive!

They're usually the ones who spend the most time here.

MCALDWELLC said...

It's funny how these anonymous bloggers seem to leave as many comments as the "regulars"...it's as if they are constantly reading your blog, Tania? Too bad there is not a way to monitor that.

Anonymous said...

Why Mary dear, we are reading it regularly. We are the masses. And maybe just maybe... we might bless your's with our presence...

Tania Rochelle said...

FYI: That would be "bless YOURS"--without the apostrophe.

Unless you meant "bless your is."

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