7.19.2006

Separation Anxiety



This morning, Lo was packing for a sleep-over at her friend Elizabeth's. She was very excited (or maybe it was the birthday cake she ate for breakfast) and could hardly contain herself. As we were walking out, she said, "Mom, I'm going to tell you a secret. We are going to have a WIYALD party. I mean WIYALD. We've been planning and making decorations all week. We're setting the tent up in her room and putting mats down on the floor. WIYALD! Hey, can I shoot you once before I go?"

16 comments:

minus five said...

guns don't kill people, lola kills people.

MAMOO said...

now that's scary. where did she get the weapon? this time i didn't do it. can we please start pushing baby dolls dressed in pink, barbie hair salon and such?

Tania Rochelle said...

Weaponry aside, it's a tough call: do you nudge her toward the female stereotype so she can get along better in the world (the neighborhood prima donnas already give her grief!), or do you celebrate the Lo that is Lola and say to hell with anyone who doesn't like it/her?

MCALDWELLC said...

I DEFINITELY say the latter of two...and that is not just because I want to adopt her...the kid has spunk and personality...push her into something that she is not, naturally, and she will develop all sorts of weird neuroses. TRUST me on that one. You'll just need to make sure she knows creative ways to tell people to "piss off," but somehow I don't think that will be a problem.

Biggy said...

perhaps I'm biased, being her father and all, but I hope the path she is on brings her toward self-esteem and confidence in a world where girls tend to become meek as they approach adolescence (sp?). I never want her to think she can't compete with the boys. Of course, there is the chance in this approach that she decides she would rather be a boy.

minus five said...

this is why i'm not a parent. well, one of the reasons anyway.

it seems that with a kid like lola, she would see straight through all of your manipulation if you tried to get her to behave in dollhouse playing kind of ways.

she'll learn to say to hell with people who don't like her. she probably already does. getting along better in the world is highly overrated anyway. i don't think those people are necessarily happier.

mamoo said...

ok, o-kay. tania and greg know i don't really push her toward either. besides she lets me know real quick that she won't wear a dress or a skirt. and, i'm the one who will buy her camouflage and then buy her a bra when she asks for it. that was great. she has on superman briefs and a bra. go figure.

mamoo said...

oh, and greg, are you really time traveler?
and sarah, you're slipping. you didn't comment on greg's profound statement.

minus five said...

tania's mom: there is no way greg is secretly time traveller. there is a huge difference in their writing styles. time traveller is a mystery to us all. and i don't think i'm slipping in reference to greg's comment... i just happened to agree with him this time and didn't have any smart remarks.

mamoo said...

sarah, my apologies. i stand corrected.

Anne-Davnes said...

Time Traveler is too much of a dork to be one that Tania chose.

And I love it that Lo likes the masculine and feminine. She's a gem.

Tania Rochelle said...

Hey-hey now, not so harsh. Time Traveler actually took criticism well and was starting to get with the program.
Until you meanies ran 'm off.

I miss Time Traveler.

minus five said...

tania: are you completely serious? i think you just liked having a mysterious number one fan. he did take criticism well, i'll give him that. i'm with anne on this one.

Tania Rochelle said...

Completely serious. I rarely "meet" someone who can even tolerate a negative comment about him/herself much less respond with a steady, "You might be right."

I really admire that.

minus five said...

i'll have to think some more on this one.

rk said...

I forgot where I heard this:

ask an 8-year-old girl what she wants on her pizza and she'll tell you: "cheese, sausage, extra cheese."

ask a 10-year-old: "I don't know," she'll say.

ask a 12-year-old: "whatever you want..."

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